what if…..just a few moments sooner

subhanaAllah! we never know when could be our last day or moment!!!

Yesterday I think it was just the “excitement/shock” of it, but it didn’t really hit home.

As most of you know my husband installs phone, cable and internet service he was outside in Chicago yesterday and some young men were dropped off and were hanging out directly in front of where he was gathering the equipment. They moved around the corner and a car came through and started shooting at them in broad daylight with children, babies and families outside and everything!

There was some ppl with strollers hiding behind my husband’s work van. My husband, those babies and kids could have all been shot if it had not been that those young men had started crossing the street around the corner. I say this not for pity, or as something to talk about on fb for likes but as a very real eye-opening plea. This happens everyday in Chicago, thousands of families loose loved ones and not just “bad people”. It happens to the innocent 8 times out of ten. The siblings, the neighbors, the kids, the lady walking to the store….. PLEASE KEEP ALL THOSE PEOPLE IN YOUR DUAS (PRAYERS) It’s a very real daily occurrence. Please make dua for those in Chicago. The Politicians don’t care too much because it’s not happening at their homes, ranches, yachts, and mansions.

Please make dua(prayer) Allah (God) guides them and guides and keeps us on the straight path, forgives us and makes us do better

 

I wanted this post as more of an eye-opening plea to notice what is going on in Chicago and ourselves on a different level…..

Everyday we eat to survive, wear our seatbelts try to “be safe” but the reality is death can come at anytime. What will we leave behind? Will facebook help us? Our barely there prayers? Do we do the bare minimum? 

I’m TRULY honestly speaking of myself and in genuine fear and hope for all of you. How much Quraan do we try to learn/memorize/recite or understand? seriously forget even day to day can we just answer for ourselves (not to me on here) what do we try to fix, change, improve, memorize or do for kindness to others?

How much Manners do we display, teach, try to learn? How much REAL Islam do we teach our kids and families with lovely dispositions, explanations and live examples?

If I died on this day besides having to rely on Allah’s mercy- what goodness would I have, what legacy would I leave behind, what Islam, goodness, memories, or practices and good deeds would even aid me on that VERY REAL Judgement day?

Being Supportive

Sometimes we confuse being supportive for agreeing with and helping others through decisions WE like or think they should take or avoid. They don’t always listen, sometimes what we think is best isn’t actually best for THEm and sometimes it is and they just don’t take heed.

We have to be VERY careful in confusing being supportive for “forcing” ourselves on others as there usually isn’t a one-size-fits-all choice in life. Also being supportive, and loving of a person doesn’t always means supporting bad choices or endorsing them. It can be a simple smile, and a big DUA (prayer) for them. It means that even if they makes choices for their life you wouldn’t, can’t, or don’t like you still are kind, helpful, polite, and prayerful for them.

In the end they may have made a GREAT choice for their life and Allah knows best. What I’m trying to say is just because someone disagrees, or is in a bad place, or made a different choice then we would have or what we like doesn’t mean it is always wrong, just different. We can’t bully people around for their decisions but we can help them in goodness, kindness, duas, patience and being there for them.

Being supportive means being there for them–not being a nag at them. Some choices in life are horrible for us, but Great for another, our EXPERIENCE with certain choices or individuals doesn’t mean that is someone else’s experience with it. Anyhow just a little bit of reflections, self needed reminders, advice and tips also known as growing pains 😉