The post that made *ME* Nervous…

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Also Kamal Abu-Shamsieh, Staff Chaplain at Muslim Spiritual Care Services, will be joining us to share his knowledge and experiences on counseling bereaved families.

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the noisy silence

reflective…..thinking of making some homemade spaghetti sauce for spaghetti today.

It’s “work” but worth it.

I’ve come to the realization that I’m not where I want to be, but I’m not terrible either. I’ve also come to the enlightening and frightening (for some of us) conclusion that SILENCE, and TRUE reflection with and for ourselves is the best.

It SCREAMS reality and truth and tells us what we need to hear in the silence.
Which makes you wonder if that’s why we’re such a hurry up and listen, watch, tune out, sing society? Are we trying to drown out our truths?

hmmm ….eh I may be too reflective for some of you, but we should ALL ask ourselves questions in the LOUD stillness of our silences. Not for show, not for a false sense of piety, but for our own personal growth. To decide what it is we should try, be doing, change, stop, start, or forgive.

what if…..just a few moments sooner

subhanaAllah! we never know when could be our last day or moment!!!

Yesterday I think it was just the “excitement/shock” of it, but it didn’t really hit home.

As most of you know my husband installs phone, cable and internet service he was outside in Chicago yesterday and some young men were dropped off and were hanging out directly in front of where he was gathering the equipment. They moved around the corner and a car came through and started shooting at them in broad daylight with children, babies and families outside and everything!

There was some ppl with strollers hiding behind my husband’s work van. My husband, those babies and kids could have all been shot if it had not been that those young men had started crossing the street around the corner. I say this not for pity, or as something to talk about on fb for likes but as a very real eye-opening plea. This happens everyday in Chicago, thousands of families loose loved ones and not just “bad people”. It happens to the innocent 8 times out of ten. The siblings, the neighbors, the kids, the lady walking to the store….. PLEASE KEEP ALL THOSE PEOPLE IN YOUR DUAS (PRAYERS) It’s a very real daily occurrence. Please make dua for those in Chicago. The Politicians don’t care too much because it’s not happening at their homes, ranches, yachts, and mansions.

Please make dua(prayer) Allah (God) guides them and guides and keeps us on the straight path, forgives us and makes us do better


I wanted this post as more of an eye-opening plea to notice what is going on in Chicago and ourselves on a different level…..

Everyday we eat to survive, wear our seatbelts try to “be safe” but the reality is death can come at anytime. What will we leave behind? Will facebook help us? Our barely there prayers? Do we do the bare minimum? 

I’m TRULY honestly speaking of myself and in genuine fear and hope for all of you. How much Quraan do we try to learn/memorize/recite or understand? seriously forget even day to day can we just answer for ourselves (not to me on here) what do we try to fix, change, improve, memorize or do for kindness to others?

How much Manners do we display, teach, try to learn? How much REAL Islam do we teach our kids and families with lovely dispositions, explanations and live examples?

If I died on this day besides having to rely on Allah’s mercy- what goodness would I have, what legacy would I leave behind, what Islam, goodness, memories, or practices and good deeds would even aid me on that VERY REAL Judgement day?

discouraged-upset with Muslims or with rules

Sometimes we get discouraged by people’s behaviors, actions, lack of actions or by “rules”. Sometimes we feel alone, lonely, judged or we focus on the negatives which cloud our gratitude for what we do have and what we DON’T have to deal with. AlHamdulilah through it all.

I say change your outlook and change your life. Sometimes it’s easier to give up, blame others or say it’s too difficult. I have! I claimed I’d never get past ALIF in the Arabic alphabet, that certain types of Muslims weren’t “polite”…just excuses…… and while it was TRUE that some people are rude and Arabic is still not ease- focusing on MY outlook and on what I could change, fix, try, practice or learn more about granted me an ease and peace that is unexplainable.

Sometimes we tend to be lawless, “can’t nobody tell me nothing” type of mentality, then we convert/revert to Islam and it’s hard to accept advice and we view it as rules, judgement, dictatorship– and in all fairness there may be 1 person out 6 giving you “advice” who is rude and trying to be bossy; but it doesn’t mean all of them are. Nor does it make Islam’s beautiful or logical guidelines bad or too hard. It doesn’t make us bad either, we just have to adjust and gain a better outlook (or better company to surround ourselves with)

If the “rules” have you down- instead of thinking “man so much to try to learn or change and be told to do”. Try my old approach. I prefer to compare it to a driving test. When driving we have to learn many rules of the road to be safe and what not to do. We have to learn what’s helpful, what’s better-what’s recommended and what to avoid.

Then driving is just a piece of cake, very easy and you honestly don’t seem to be “following rules” but getting somewhere. For the test you do have to know these rules and judgement day is our test so to speak. This is where we want to get with better deeds than neglectful ones.

If the people, the bad manners, the baggage has you upset. Don’t fret there are bad mannered people everywhere. This is NOT Islam either. Abandoning Allah in times of hardships or because a Muslim upset you is like knowing you’ll starve to death and be homeless but refuse to work because an employee there is annoying or rude. I hope these tips are helpful and encouraging =) Please keep me and my family in your duas ♥

May Allah keep eeman in our hearts and not dependent on others ameen


We spend so much energy focusing on careers, race, nationalism, religion, weight, or otherwise trying to click up n be a certain way to the max- on how we’re bigger, better, tougher than others, on how our job or lack there of choice is better than theirs because it’s the best for us. So much on being the biggest, baddest whatever we want to label ourselves… Cut us open- we’re all created the same inside.

It’s about time we focus on humanity, on being loving, on loving for others what we want for ourselves and not just as some cliche religious phrase to repeat when it applies to us, but, to truly strive. We’re either sisters and brothers in Religion or in humanity.

Why are we so hateful? mean, spiteful, angry, malicious, and harmful? I thank Allah (God) I have amazing people in my life. I truly wish ALL of you did too but here is the thing…. Amazing people won’t come knocking your door down. Get out there- be amazing.

Hold the door open for someone a little longer, buy that candy, those cookies, give that charity. Smile even through that bad mood, pick up that litter you didn’t drop. Answer kindly vs sarcastically. Help someone “get something” or understand it instead of judging them for not doing something. Drink more water, rest better-take walks, eat healthier, show some compassion or at the very least-if you truly can’t…than do NO harm.

Motivation, change, life

” when work, commitment, and pleasure all become one and you reach that deep well where passion lives, nothing is impossible”~ Nancy Coey

“When you hold back on life, life holds back on you”~Mary Manin Morrissey 

Let’s get it in ladies!!!

Whether it be Arabic Alphabet learning, house-keeping, Islamic basics, loosing weight, Sura memorizing, Tajweed (PROPER pronunciation) kindness, leaving off showing off, backbiting, doing too much of everything and in the end neglecting the important, or Arabic Quranic reading. The same rules apply if we don’t want it bad enough, if we don’t love it or if we don’t keep trying we’ll get nowhere fast!

1.- Make dua for it, if we pray ask Allah for it as much as we talk about, complain about, or daydream about it we’d be a lot closer!

2.-Trust in Allah but tie our camel-this means after duas we WORK hard at it, be it working out, trying to be organized, cleaning more often, or becoming better. Hard work produces results.

3.-Know where you’re starting from. Where are you at realistically? Start there. I can’t read Quran without proper Arabic letter joining and sounds

4.- Smile and try again even if you feel no gain, no better, or stuck. Admit it we ALL have our days!! Or, maybe it’s just me 

5.-Know where you want to be/go/get to or accomplish. Make a realistic plan on how to achieve your goal or goals.

6.-Follow the plan, think of your goal, planning, wanting, and praying for it aren’t enough you have to keep on keeping on!

Happy journey ladies!

May Allah make positive changes in our life easy and may He make Islamic knowledge easy to learn Ameen.

My article

My article “In these Empty Arms” featured in this month’s Mariam Poppins magazine is also posted on her site.

” She sipped on her coffee, the sad-flat look in her eyes that now replaced the sparkle she once had–gone. Looking at me, she calmly and quietly asked “but when does it get easier?”

Shall I tell her you learn to laugh through the knot in your throat? Shall I tell her you learn to live again with this new you? Shall I tell her she’ll never again walk past certain aisles in stores and be the same? No, it sounds cynical, too hard to bear all that at once. I mean I remember the first year. *sigh* There is some benefit in this, I mean a lot of benefit really, but it still hurts. It can bring us closer to Allah. The All Merciful.
I put my food down and swallowed what I had, and gave her-what I’m sure, was a weak smile. We were in a public restaurant and a couple of muslimahs crying was all I needed to fuel more rumors of how miserable…… (Continue to Mariam Poppins