Sometimes we get discouraged by people’s behaviors, actions, lack of actions or by “rules”. Sometimes we feel alone, lonely, judged or we focus on the negatives which cloud our gratitude for what we do have and what we DON’T have to deal with. AlHamdulilah through it all.
I say change your outlook and change your life. Sometimes it’s easier to give up, blame others or say it’s too difficult. I have! I claimed I’d never get past ALIF in the Arabic alphabet, that certain types of Muslims weren’t “polite”…just excuses…… and while it was TRUE that some people are rude and Arabic is still not ease- focusing on MY outlook and on what I could change, fix, try, practice or learn more about granted me an ease and peace that is unexplainable.
Sometimes we tend to be lawless, “can’t nobody tell me nothing” type of mentality, then we convert/revert to Islam and it’s hard to accept advice and we view it as rules, judgement, dictatorship– and in all fairness there may be 1 person out 6 giving you “advice” who is rude and trying to be bossy; but it doesn’t mean all of them are. Nor does it make Islam’s beautiful or logical guidelines bad or too hard. It doesn’t make us bad either, we just have to adjust and gain a better outlook (or better company to surround ourselves with)
If the “rules” have you down- instead of thinking “man so much to try to learn or change and be told to do”. Try my old approach. I prefer to compare it to a driving test. When driving we have to learn many rules of the road to be safe and what not to do. We have to learn what’s helpful, what’s better-what’s recommended and what to avoid.
Then driving is just a piece of cake, very easy and you honestly don’t seem to be “following rules” but getting somewhere. For the test you do have to know these rules and judgement day is our test so to speak. This is where we want to get with better deeds than neglectful ones.
If the people, the bad manners, the baggage has you upset. Don’t fret there are bad mannered people everywhere. This is NOT Islam either. Abandoning Allah in times of hardships or because a Muslim upset you is like knowing you’ll starve to death and be homeless but refuse to work because an employee there is annoying or rude. I hope these tips are helpful and encouraging =) Please keep me and my family in your duas ♥
May Allah keep eeman in our hearts and not dependent on others ameen